Thursday, June 24, 2010
All Mothers Work
Who has it easier, a mother who stays at home full time, or a mother who works outside the home? Actually, I should probably be asking a different question -- who has it harder. Motherhood is hard work, no matter how you slice it.
Since the release of Chasing Superwoman, I’ve been asked on a few radio interviews, “What do you have to say to stay-at-home moms? Does your book say anything to them?”
The short answer is that all mothers work. And we don’t just work, we work hard. Instead of focusing on the differences between stay-at-home mothers and mothers who work outside the home, I often wish we could focus on what we have in common. And in Chasing Superwoman, I try to do just that. Sure, I am writing from the perspective of a mother who works outside the home. But all mothers can relate to the pressures, insecurities, and faith struggles of raising young children. In fact, stay-at-home moms arguably deal with the Superwoman complex all the more. They feel like everything at home has to be perfect.
The highlight of my week has been the following email I just received from a stay-at-home mom and dear friend who just finished the book.
“I know your frame of reference is the working mom, but I can assure you that as a mom who doesn't work, my issues and insecurities are the same. You give such a breath of realism and authenticity to the struggles mothers have today.” (Emphasis added.)
I can’t tell you how much this note meant to me. I don’t know why we draw artificial lines between mothers who work outside the home and those who don’t, but we do. Sometimes, the church even segregates us more than it unites us – when it should be the very place where we come together.
So, instead of focusing on our differences, please join me in sharing what we have in common. (And I’d love to hear if you have a different perspective or think I’ve misstated the issue. Let’s keep talking about this one, because it’s important!)