If you’re reading this, I am assuming a couple of things about you. You’re one of those people who is pushing yourself toward something. Career. Family. Spiritual Growth. Relationships.
And, if you’re like me, you don’t want to settle. You don’t want to wake up in 20 years and say, “Geez, that was a big waste of time!”
We only get one shot at this life, don’t we?
This intense pressure – to take the best shot at life that we can – may drive us to action. It just might drive us to step out of our comfort zones, to change, and to grow.
But it can also paralyze us.
After all, who wants to fail? Isn’t it just easier to settle? And if you don’t try, maybe you can protect yourself from disappointment.
I was recently reading a thoughtful post by David Rupert titled “Why Do We Stay in Bad Jobs?” It got me thinking. Isn’t it fear – and specifically the fear of failure – that holds us back from achieving our true potential?
This is where grace comes in. You see, I think God already has this whole “fear of failure” thing under control. Grace means that I don’t have to perform. I don’t have to have a road map. And I don’t even have to get it right the first time.
Someone else got it right for me. I just have to accept a gift.
I know, this sounds too simplistic. Some would even argue that grace destroys motivation. Why try to be the best if you don’t have to?
I don’t know about you, but when someone gives me a gift – especially a gift I don’t deserve – I want to give back. I want to show that I’m grateful. I too want to experience the grace of giving. And when I experience unconditional love – love that isn’t dependant on what I’ve done for you or what you expect from me -- I want to love back.
Besides, if my identity is secure, I don’t have to worry about proving myself. I am free to be me – a child of God. Sure, on the outside, I might look like a mother, a lawyer, a writer. But all of that could be gone tomorrow. I’ll be a child of God forever.
Which means I don’t have to worry about whether my writing is good, great or lousy. Heck, I don’t even need to worry about who is reading this blog (if anyone!) or who is going to post my next Amazon review. Even typos aren’t the end of the world (ok, they are still really annoying).
Grace has set me free. And it’s a great feeling.
How about you?
[I’ll be traveling internationally next week and won’t be blogging. I sure will miss you, but I’m going to give myself some grace, ok?]