Today, on Working Mommy Wednesday, we’re answering a tough question: should working moms (and dads) talk about their kids at work?
Here’s my short answer: know your audience.
Even though you think little “Junior” is the greatest thing since sliced bread, not everyone cares. Some working adults don’t have kids. Some don’t like kids. Others are just over them (been there, done that!). Still others haven’t reached that stage in life – and it scares them just thinking about it.
I was sitting down at dinner with a new client the other evening, and he started moaning about all the screaming kids on his flight. I quickly looked at his hand – no wedding ring. (Of course, this doesn’t mean he doesn’t have children of his own, but I tend to watch for the signs.)
Note to self: I probably shouldn’t lead the conversation with stories about my darling children.
On the other hand, some of us – especially women – make the mistake of thinking that any reference to our personal lives isn’t “professional.” So we hide the pictures of our children and act like we’re not mothers – just because we don’t want others to think we have “Mommy Mush Brain.” This too can be a mistake. As a lawyer and a mother, some of my closest bonds with both my colleagues and clients have centered around my children.
But I still walk that tight rope.